The following are 5 Characteristics You Need In A Spouse
1. Driven.
There
is nothing more frustrating than being with someone who has no drive,
no matter the circumstance. When it comes to looking for a spouse,
seeking after someone who is driven is something you don’t want to look
past. You’ll appreciate someone who has a drive to get better, take
criticism, work harder, and take advice. This will be greatly beneficial
in your relationship, and it will save you from having to pry this
person off the couch in the future. (Proverbs 21:5)
2. Has a gentle spirit.
Being with someone who is quick-tempered
is my fear for many people. This characteristic is not only one that
can ruin marriages, but it can also ruin the relationships you and your
spouse have with the friends and family around you. The opposite of
quick-tempered would be searching for someone who has a gentle spirit.
You’ll appreciate a spouse who is easy to talk to, doesn’t blow up when
things get tough, and also monitors the way they talk to you.
Gentle-spirited people tend to speak in ways that will always bring you
honor and respect, no matter the issue or situation. (1 Corinthians
13:4-7)
3. Puts you before themselves.
The second I said, “I do” was the second
I vowed to put my wife before myself. I can’t imagine being in a
relationship with someone who only thought of themselves, and frankly
that’s the opposite of what marriage is supposed to be. You need to find
someone who is willing to think about you and your relationship with
one another before they think about how situations will affect them
alone. Once you’re married, no one should continue living a life that
resembles a bachelor or bachelorette. (Philippians 2:3)
4. Supports your goals and aspirations.
We all have goals, dreams, and
aspirations. Wouldn’t it be miserable to be with someone who didn’t
support them? The frustrations and insecurities that derive from a
spouse not being supportive can bring someone to the point of
depression. It would be hard to be with someone who doesn’t support what
you are passionate about, and I would encourage marrying someone who
is. Be open and honest about what you feel God has called you to do in
life, even during the first few dates. If they can’t support your
dreams, I wouldn’t allow them to support you in marriage. (1
Thessalonians 5:11)
5. They will love you unconditionally.
Love should not be conditional,
transactional, or partial. Don’t settle for someone who only loves you
when they find it convenient. This goes beyond just saying “I love you.”
The broad spectrum of love includes the much needed emotional support,
physical touch, encouragement, and selflessness. Saying, “I love you” is
great… But viewing love as a verb is what will forever keep your
marriage strong and healthy. (1 John 4:18)
- Jarrid Wilson
taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/5-characteristics-you-need-in-a-spouse/
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