10 Things Everyone Should Start Doing

Here are 10 Things Everyone Should Start Doing 

 

GIVE BACK

Much of today’s culture points back to the idea of obtaining more for yourself, but I believe the best way to live life is through selflessly giving back to others. Whether it be through a church, missions trip, charity or “do good” company; giving back is always a wonderful thing to do. Not only will it help you grow as an individual, but your contributions will help those in need around the world.

EAT HEALTHIER

This is one area I definitely need to work on, but I radically believe in it’s worth when applied to each of our individual lives. There is nothing wrong with eating some junk-food every once in a while, but I would encourage you to also make openings in your diet for fruits, veggies, and other sources of vitamins. I always try to trick myself into believing a strawberry shake is a source of fruit, but my wife is the first to tell me otherwise. Regardless, you get my point. Want to live longer? Eat healthier.

TRY SOMETHING NEW

Life without risk is boring. Don’t fall into the temptation of playing it safe and settling for mediocrity. Lace up your shoes, muster up some courage, and dare to believe that anything is possible if you work hard enough. Try something new, eat something new, or explore somewhere new. Expand your horizons by stepping out into unchartered territory. You’ve got nothing to lose, except maybe your average life.

SPEND TIME OUTDOORS

I am not telling you to become the next Bear Grylls or audition for the next season of Survivor. But hey! Why couldn’t you? Get outside of your home or office, and step into the beautiful and intrepid world around you. Go hiking, fishing, camping, or even spend a weekend backpacking in the woods of the High Sierras. There is nothing more rejuvenating than spending time a midst the colossal and awe-inspiring greatness of the outdoors.

HELP PEOPLE IN NEED

Life is too short to be spent on nobody but yourself. Utilize your assets and resources to help those in need around you. This could mean something as simple as giving a dollar to someone in need, or lending a listening ear to someone who is in need of companionship. There are millions of opportunities to help the needy in today’s world, and the question is whether or not you will utilize one of them instead of ignoring them. You could be the change for someone in need.

SPEND MORE TIME WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY

My wife and I have realized the importance of not allowing ourselves to take each other for granted. We understand that time is a valuable, and un-promised resource that has been given to us for the time being. Whether it be your spouse, parents, friends, or family member; I would encourage you to open up space in your life for the people God has put closest to you.

EXTEND FORGIVENESS

Life is short, and resentment can do a lot more damage than you might thing. Make a point to extend forgiveness to those who are around you. Why? Because someone once forgave you when you didn’t deserve it. Our world would be a lot better off if people learned to start forgiving one another. Nothing in life is worth withholding forgiveness from. Grudges and grace don’t mix.

READ MORE

You might have just cringed when you read this, but I would really encourage you to start taking reading seriously. Buy some books, get yourself a tablet, or even download a digital reader on your smart-phone. There are so many incredible books at your disposal, and life is too short to ignore them. The saying goes: “One who doesn’t read will live a mediocre life.” And while many might disagree, I tend to think reading can open up a world of imagination and wisdom for those who are willing to grasp it. No matter what genre you sway closest to, I guarantee you are bound to find something that will interest you. No one has ever said, “I wish I wouldn’t have read so much.”

CONQUER A FEAR

We all have fears that keep us from truly living the life God has called us to. And while many of us might think our fears are extremely logical, I guarantee that one mans fear is another mans hobby. Don’t let fear keep you from exploring the vast world that God has set before you. Choose something that you are scared of, and make a point to overcome it with valiant tenacity. Kick fear in the gut, and and embark on a journey that I promise you will not regret.

FIND A HOBBY

Don’t let the day-to-day routine of life keep you from pursuing things you are passionate about. Pick up something you find invigorating, and make it a point to add it to your weekly schedule. It’s always a good idea to undertake activities you are excited about, and in doing so you are bound to find yourself living a more fulfilling and joyful life.

 

-Jarrid Wilson

taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/10-things-everyone-should-start-doing/

Pursue Your Dreams Even When Others Don’t Agree

Have you ever shared an incredible dream, vision, or idea with the people you love; only to find out they aren’t as excited about it as you are? It hurts. But while many people might find this to be the end of their pursuit, I encourage people to let it fuel them that much more.

All throughout life you will encounter people who don’t necessarily understand your vision, but you need to understand that this is ok! Why? Because it’s your vision, not theirs.  You can’t expect them to see your life from the same angle you can.

If I would have listened to everyone who told me my dreams were a waste of time, I would not be a pastor and author, nor would I have continued to use social media as platform to share The Gospel. It’s not that these people didn’t love me; it’s just that they couldn’t see the depth of my dreams like I could. I had to respectfully disagree with their opinions in order to pursue the calling God had given me.

This didn’t mean I ignored their wisdom… I just realized the guidance they were giving me was contrary to my purpose.

Dream stompers are everywhere. And while not all of them are doing it purposely, I would encourage to not take their opinions personally. If God has given you a calling, then go for it!

What should you do when faced with dream stompers?

1. Ignore the haters. Only listen to people who show you respect.

2. Ask yourself how important your dreams really are to you.

3. Decide whether or not your dreams are really worth chasing.

Don’t deal with dream stompers! They’ll always find a way to discourage you from pursuing your purpose. If God has called you to it, then God will bring you through it.

-Jarrid Wilson

taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/pursue-your-dreams-even-when-others-dont-agree/

8 Things My Father Taught Me About Respecting Women

1. “That’s someone’s daughter.”

This is something I will always hold dear to my heart. My father has a great way of putting things into perspective for me. He made me realize that every girl in this world is not only someone’s daughter, but also a child of God. I should always treat women the same way I would hope someone to treat my future daughter.

2. “Keep your hands to yourself.”

If you’re not married to her, keep your hands off her. That was the broken record that constantly played within my head. I understood where  my father was coming from, and our foundation of faith definitely played an important role in keeping this standard true. None of us are perfect, but the strive for purity is something my father would constantly embed into my brain. He understood the reality of sex in today’s culture, and encouraged me to always try and live above the world’s standard of what is normal

3. “Walk her to the door.”

Chivalry 101. Walk your lady to her door, and then make sure she gets inside safe before you leave. From a very young age I remember both my father and grandfather drilling this into my brain. I guess you can say our family has always strived to be chivalrous, thoughtful, and kind. But while this may just seem like a silly gesture, the act can really showcase the honor and respect you have for a woman.

4. “Always pay for her dinner.”

Many will claim that times are changing, but I still hold this standard pretty high, no matter how much a woman makes. It’s a simple gesture that showcases your willingness to provide and support. Pay for her dinner, even if she orders the $60.00 steak.

5. “Offer your coat when it’s cold.”

Sacrifice is key when it comes to any relationship. I learned this from watching the men in my family live this out on a daily basis. When it’s cold, offer your coat. When it’s hot, offer to buy a drink. When it’s raining, find anything you can to keep her hair from getting wet.

6. “Open the car door.”

Another class from chivalry 101. It’s a simple act of kindness that shows any woman that you are thinking of her before yourself. If you have a motorcycle, pretend to open a car door for effect.

7. “Respect her parents wishes.”

No matter how crazy or loud, I encourage you to respect a woman’s parents to the highest degree. This might be tough for some of you, but I promise it will score you major points with both the family and your lady. The last thing you want is to be in a relationship with someone who’s parents do not like you. Do all you can to show them respect, even if it kills you.

8. “Make her feel protected and safe.”

I know that not everyone is as buff as me (obviously joking), but there is still hope for anyone who is looking to make their lady feel protected an safe. You don’t need to have muscles on top of your muscles to make your lady feel protected. Just show that you are willing to do whatever it takes to protect her, her belongings, and your relationship.

Disclaimer: I don’t do all of these perfectly, nor do I claim to. I try to be the best husband I can for my wife, even though I sometimes will make mistakes. My wife is the most precious thing in the world to me, and I pray that I can be the man that God knows she deserves. My intent is to pass along some incredible wisdom that was given to me by my father and his father. 

-Jarrid Wilson

taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/8-things-my-father-taught-me-about-respecting-women/

Making Marriage Last

I’ve been married about two weeks now, and I figured I would do a post highlighting the already important aspects I’ve learned about marriage, my wife, and our relationship. Believe me, I am no expert but I think these three points will definitely have an impact on your life. 

 

Three Things I’ve Learned In Marriage: 

1. I don’t know everything. 
- Yup, shocker. As much as I want to believe I can conquer all things on my own, that’s just really not the case at all. Let’s be honest… I may like to think I am incredibly smart, but the reality is that I don’t know everything. In fact, nobody knows everything. My wife is incredible, has a keen sense of what’s right or wrong, and definitely has better taste in movies than I do.
She brings a new perspective, and one that is different from the way I’ve lived. Why? Because she’s a different person than me. The truth is: When going into any relationship, one must learn to sometimes put down their personal preferences and come into a joint state of thinking in the topic of decision-making. A marriage cannot last on one heart/brain alone. 

2. It’s no longer about me. 
- Being single gives you many freedoms to do a lot of “you type” things. Well, when you are married that all begins to change overnight. You can no longer just go where “you” please, buy what “you” want, or do what “you” want. You have to realize that your decisions now impact more than just you, and in order for any marriage to work, you need to be able to come together as a team when it comes time for decision-making.
Don’t believe me? Try spending $300.00 without letting your husband or wife know, and let me know how that goes (Don’t actually do that). My point is: life is not about “you” anymore. The second you said “I do” is the second you accepted the responsibility of another life into your own.  

3. Love and Respect are Key. 
- Other than being founded on God, I believe love and respect are two key fundamental values for any marriage that is looking to last longer than The Honeymoon. While men seek to be respected, a woman seeks be loved and cherished. The idea is NOT to withhold one value if the other party is not doing a very good job at holding up to their side of the bargain, but instead keeping afloat an open dialogue that gives freedom to discuss how each other are feeling in terms of their LOVE and RESPECT fuel tanks. 
My wife and I have started this early, and we have an open dialogue that gives us the freedoms to express if we are not feeling loved or respected by the other person. A lot of times it’s due to the simple concept of miscommunication, but it’s better for us to keep the discussion open than wrongly assume each others motives. 


Scripture:
Ephesians 5:22 - For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:25 - For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.
Book Recommendations: 
1. Love & Respect 
2. Beyond Ordinary

- Jarrid Wilson

taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/making-marriage-last/

10 Differences Between Dating A Boy Vs Dating A Man

#1 A man will own up to his mistakes. A boy will make excuses for them.

#2 A man will respect your purity. A boy will let his desires control him.


#3 A man will respect you no matter the circumstance. A boy will respect you when he wants something in return.

#4 A man will do whatever it takes to provide. A boy will make excuses as to why he can’t provide.

#5 A man will prepare for the future. A boy lives in the moment.

#6 A man looks to gain the respect of your family. A boy look to gain popularity from people around him.

#7 A man is firm in his beliefs. A boy changes his beliefs depending on the girl.

#8 A man has integrity. A boy makes promises he knows he cannot keep.

#9 A man will always take an opportunity to learn. A boy thinks he knows everything.

#10 A man seeks more than just beauty. A boy seeks beauty so he can show off.

- Jarrid Wilson

taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/10-differences-between-dating-a-boy-vs-dating-a-man/

5 Things To Do While You’re Single

Being single isn’t a disease, It’s an opportunity for you to grow, learn, and experience life in a way that you won’t be able to when you are married. 

 

Here are 5 things to do while you’re single:

1. Be firm in your faith. 
- Build your faith on a foundation that cannot be shaken, no matter whom you encounter. This will not only bring you peace during your season of singleness, but will also help you in your journey of finding the person you plan on being with for the rest of your life.Don’t let your beliefs change depending on whom you’re trying to impress. This tactic will always come around to hurt you in the long run.


2. Get grounded in your personal identity. 
- Know who you are before trying to explain it to someone else. Be confident in your purpose, your body, your identity, and your life choices. Relationships will not fix your identity problems, but they can be an added bonus to who you are as a person.

3. Focus on school, or starting you career. 
- You have a lot of time on your hands. Instead of spending it wallowing in your singleness, GO MAKE SOMETHING OF YOURSELF! You are worth more than what sitting on a couch waiting for your significant other makes you out to be. Step out into the world and take maturity by the horns. Start building your future instead of simply dreaming about it.

4. Learn to be independent until needed otherwise. 
- There is nothing wrong with aspiring to be a stay at home mom, or even being a man who works from home. But until either of these opportunities come into play, you need to make sure you are doing everything possible to provide for yourself, your future family, and your future aspirations. Don’t live day-to-day. Plan for the future, and look forward to the possibilities. You owe it to yourself to mature in all

5. Stop dating people you know aren’t right for you. 
- While you’re single, stay away from mindless dating experiences. If you know they aren’t your type, don’t give them the time of day. All you are going to do is hurt them and eventually confuse your heart. Stop dating the wrong people and start focusing on becoming the right person.

- Jarrid Wilson


taken from : http://jarridwilson.com/5-things-to-do-while-youre-single/

10 Differences Between Dating A Girl Vs. Dating A Woman

Here are 10 differences between dating a girl vs. dating a woman.

1. A woman will respect her body. A girl will do everything she can to flaunt it.

2. A woman will own up to her mistakes. A girl will make excuses for them.
3. A woman will respect you no matter the circumstance. A girl will only respect you when she wants something in return.
4. A woman will do whatever it takes to provide and support. A girl will look for others to take care of her.
5. A woman will prepare for the future. A girl lives in the moment.
6. A woman looks to gain the respect of your family. A girl look to gain attention from people around her.
7. A woman is firm in her beliefs. A girl changes her beliefs depending on the man.
8. A woman has integrity.  A girl makes promises she knows she cannot keep.
9. A woman will always take an opportunity to learn. A girl thinks she knows everything.
10. A woman seeks more than just good looks. A girl seeks arm-candy so she can show off.

- Jarrid Wilson

taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/10-differences-between-dating-a-girl-vs-dating-a-woman/

5 Characteristics You Need In A Spouse

The following are 5 Characteristics You Need In A Spouse 

 

1. Driven.

There is nothing more frustrating than being with someone who has no drive, no matter the circumstance. When it comes to looking for a spouse, seeking after someone who is driven is something you don’t want to look past. You’ll appreciate someone who has a drive to get better, take criticism, work harder, and take advice. This will be greatly beneficial in your relationship, and it will save you from having to pry this person off the couch in the future. (Proverbs 21:5)

2. Has a gentle spirit.

Being with someone who is quick-tempered is my fear for many people. This characteristic is not only one that can ruin marriages, but it can also ruin the relationships you and your spouse have with the friends and family around you. The opposite of quick-tempered would be searching for someone who has a gentle spirit. You’ll appreciate a spouse who is easy to talk to, doesn’t blow up when things get tough, and also monitors the way they talk to you. Gentle-spirited people tend to speak in ways that will always bring you honor and respect, no matter the issue or situation. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

3. Puts you before themselves.

The second I said, “I do” was the second I vowed to put my wife before myself. I can’t imagine being in a relationship with someone who only thought of themselves, and frankly that’s the opposite of what marriage is supposed to be. You need to find someone who is willing to think about you and your relationship with one another before they think about how situations will affect them alone. Once you’re married, no one should continue living a life that resembles a bachelor or bachelorette. (Philippians 2:3)

4. Supports your goals and aspirations.

We all have goals, dreams, and aspirations. Wouldn’t it be miserable to be with someone who didn’t support them? The frustrations and insecurities that derive from a spouse not being supportive can bring someone to the point of depression. It would be hard to be with someone who doesn’t support what you are passionate about, and I would encourage marrying someone who is. Be open and honest about what you feel God has called you to do in life, even during the first few dates. If they can’t support your dreams, I wouldn’t allow them to support you in marriage. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

5. They will love you unconditionally.

Love should not be conditional, transactional, or partial. Don’t settle for someone who only loves you when they find it convenient. This goes beyond just saying “I love you.” The broad spectrum of love includes the much needed emotional support, physical touch, encouragement, and selflessness. Saying, “I love you” is great… But viewing love as a verb is what will forever keep your marriage strong and healthy. (1 John 4:18)

- Jarrid Wilson

taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/5-characteristics-you-need-in-a-spouse/

3 Signs You’re Hanging With the Wrong Crowd

When I finished high school, I thought this is the end of crappy relationships. Everyone is a grown up now. We can do adult things! We can sit around and drink beer and discuss career plans with each other. We can discuss the places we would like to travel to and the goals we would like to achieve. How awesome, right?
For the most part, this was true–the good friends I’d had for years continued to be helpful and supportive, but some of the recent friends I had collected over the years, we’re actually pulling me down. I don’t think anyone ever plans for this to happen either. It makes me think of this quote:

“Surround Yourself with Those Who Bring Out The Best in You,
Not the Stress in You.”

It forced me to ask two critical questions about every friendship I had. First, was this friend pushing me closer to my goals? Second, was this friend making me a better person? While answering these questions, it helped me identify 3 key signs I was hanging with the wrong crowd.

3 Signs You’re Hanging With the Wrong Crowd

1. You start doing things you wouldn’t normally do: All of sudden you find yourself partaking in activities and associating with people, that just a few months earlier, would not be acceptable. Maybe you’re drinking too much, lying more, or stretching your integrity. Perhaps your job or grades are in jeopardy or you start to doubt your marriage in a way that you didn’t before. There are many ways that a friend can be a bad influence, long past the days of smoking cigarettes after homeroom.
2. You put your goals on hold: The goals that were once front and center, have now fallen to the backdrop of your life. You now find yourself spending a majority of your time on trivial, unproductive activities – going to the bar, putting off important projects to go to a club, or constantly pushing back your priorities to grab dinner.
3. Your more stressed after hanging out: Friendship should be joyful and life-giving. People who use others to unload the crappy details of their lives, do not bring happiness and peace, they steal it. While sharing is an important part of friendship, you should never be made into a full-time counselor.

The key question is? Can a friendship that’s reached any of these points be saved? Possibly, but only if it feels like a phase, rather than a long-standing pattern.


taken from: http://dalepartridge.com/surround-bring-best-stress/

Why You Should Stop Dating

It’s sad to look around and see the many men and women who are in relationships with people who aren’t fully committed, but continue to keep the relationship going for no reason. And while it frustrates me to see people getting “played,” I’d like to think that all of us have been at fault for this at least one time or another. I know I have.

Dating is one of those topics that everyone loves to read articles on, so I hope this one brings to light something most people don’t like to talk about. It’s called “dating just to date.”

You know, the people who aren’t looking for anything serious, but continue getting themselves into relationships they know aren’t going to last. It’s not fair to the other person. It’s not fair to your own emotions.

When you date someone only for the sake of dating, you’re going to end up hurting that person and confusing your own heart. Not only will this bring momentary pain, but it can also stir up future dating and marriage problems down the road. Don’t set yourself up for failure. You need to understand that being single is not a disease, and that it’s okay to wait until you’re actually ready for commitment.

If you’re single:

• Stop dating just to date.
• Stop dating if you’re not ready for commitment.
• Stop dating if you’re not mature enough to be honest.

I understand that there are a plethora of things pressuring our culture to be in relationships, but you need to understand that it’s not worth the emotional damage to date someone just for the sake of dating.

Show the person you respect them enough to say “no” if you don’t think things will actually succeed. Don’t drag them along just because you like having someone to text and talk to when you get bored.

When you date just to date, you’re indirectly telling someone, “I don’t respect you.”

Stop dating just to date, and start treating people with the respect and honor they deserve. 51% of marriages now end in divorce! What better of a way to help change this percentage than by first changing the way we are dating.

- Jarrid Wilson

10 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Getting Married

Marriage is a BIG decision. Here are 10 questions to ask yourself before getting married. 

 

1. Why am I getting married?

This question seems fairly simple, but the possible answers can stir up some much needed truth. Marriage isn’t something that should be taken lightly, and your reasoning for getting married shouldn’t be either. Make sure this decision is something you’ve prayed over and thoroughly discussed.

2. Can I easily live without this person?

Can you see yourself without this person? If the answer is yes, then you may want to re-think your future with them. If the thought of your spouse with someone else doesn’t bother you, marrying them may not be the best idea. If you’re supposed to be with this person, God will instill a relentless love in your heart for them.

3. Am I better off with, or without this person?

Do they make you a better person, or do they bring out the worst in you? The last thing you want to do is marry someone who doesn’t bring out the best in you. Ask yourself whether you are better of with or without them.

4. Am I willing to put someone before myself?

Can you see yourself with this person fifty years down the road? If the answer is no, then I would re-think your decision to marry them. Marriage is a lifetime commitment that requires a daily pledge to love one another, regardless of how long you’ve been together. If you can’t put the needs of your future spouse before yourself, it may be time to end the relationship before it goes any further.

5. Do I find myself already questioning the marriage?

Have insecurities already begun popping in your head? Don’t worry. This is pretty common for anyone who is thinking about getting married. The red-flag is when these insecurities turn in to a lack of peace. If you don’t have a peace about getting married, then don’t do it.

6. Is he or she ready to be married?

Is your boyfriend or girlfriend ready to be married? Don’t jump the gun if you aren’t sure they are mentally and spiritually ready for commitment. This is where the dating process comes in! Take time to learn about one another before jumping into marriage.

7. Am I ready to be married?

Ask yourself this question with honesty and transparency. Are you spiritually and mentally ready to be married? Have you prayed over your future together? Are you at peace with the decision placed in your heart?

8. Will this person support my dreams?

The last thing you want to do is marry someone who doesn’t support your goals and dreams. Make sure that who ever you marry will be there to encourage you through thick and thin, no matter how crazy your ambitions are.

9. Do we share similar beliefs and passions?

If you have nothing in common, this might make your future marriage a bit harder to handle. Mind you, not everyone is going to have the same passions as you, but I would encourage you to marry someone who you can at least find similar beliefs in. There is nothing more encouraging than being in marriage with someone who understands your life passions and beliefs. The last thing you want to do is be in a marriage with someone who doesn’t have the same background of faith as you. Find someone you can share your love for God with.

10. Do I deserve better? 

This one might be a little harsh, but marriage is one of the few times in life you can be as picky as you’d like. Consult yourself, your friends, and your family. Pray and seek God’s wisdom as to whether or not this person is right for you. Don’t settle for mediocre when God has something marvelous for you.

- Jarrid Wilson

taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/10-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-getting-married/

10 Men And Women You Should Never Marry

10 Women A Man Shouldn’t Marry

1. The Late Night Texter
You know, the girl who only texts you after midnight. She’s the girl who only contacts you when she wants something, or someone to talk to. You can go weeks without hearing from this person, only to rarely get a text full of smiley faces and a message that reads, “Hey! How are you?” They aren’t consistent. Don’t fall into the trap.

2. The Gold-digger
She’s the woman who loves your wallet, bank account, and credit cards. Be sure to stay away from a woman who is only interested in material things, and how much of these things your salary can buy her.

3. The Flirt
This woman loves to flirt with strangers, waiters, and even your friends. The woman you should seek is one who flirts with you and only you, no matter the circumstance. That last thing you want is to be married to someone who will deliberately flirt with people in front or you, let alone behind your back.

4. The Liar
Don’t trust a woman who is constantly lying to you. If you continue to ignore her inconsistencies, she could eventually do something detrimental to your relationship.

5. The Flake
This is the woman who calls off dates, constantly changes plans and never shows up when she promised she would. If you think this will change once you’re married, you’re wrong. A flakey woman will never put her man first.

6. The Partier
Stay away from her. Although she may seem as a fun and outgoing, I guarantee you will be better off with someone who stays away from gatherings full of bad mistakes and regretful decisions. The lifestyle of a partier never fits well with the maturity that is needed in marriage.

7. The Quick To Judge
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I would encourage you to stay away from the woman who constantly throws judgments at others. This is a bad habit that is not only frowned upon, but it will also hinder you from finding any type of outside friendships. Let Judge Judy stay a TV show. Don’t marry her

8. The Immodest Dresser
The last thing you want to do is marry someone who put’s their body on display for the rest of the world to see. Without going into too much detail, I would encourage you to marry someone who respects their body enough to keep it covered and modest.

9. The Negative Nancy

She’s the woman who can find something negative in just about anything. And although there is nothing wrong with being a little skeptical, living life with someone who is constantly negative will definitely put a damper on your relationship. It’s not worth it.

10. The Cheater
I’m all for grace and second chances, but the last thing you want is to find yourself in a marriage with someone you can’t even trust. I’m a huge believe that everyone can change, but please don’t get caught up in the lie that cheating is just normal part of life. You deserve better.

10 Men A Woman Shouldn’t Marry

1. The Late Night Texter
You know, the guy who only texts you after midnight. He’s the guy who only contacts you when he wants something, or someone to talk to. You can go weeks without hearing from this person, only to rarely get a text full of smiley faces and a message that reads, “Hey! How are you?” They aren’t consistent. Don’t fall into the trap.

2. The Slacker
He’s the guy who has no dreams, vision, or passion to get up and do anything. Don’t let his smooth words trick you into a relationship that will be full of dull moments and half-hearted plans.

3. The Liar
Don’t trust a man who is constantly lying to you. If you continue to ignore his inconsistencies, he could eventually do something detrimental to your relationship.

4. The Flake
This is the guy who calls of dates, constantly changes plans, and never shows up when he promises. If you think this will change once you’re married, you’re wrong. A flakey man will never put his woman first.

5. The Cheater
I’m all for grace and second chances, but the last thing you want is to find yourself in a marriage with someone you can’t even trust. I’m a huge believe that everyone can change, but please don’t get caught up in the lie that cheating is just normal part of life. You deserve better.

6. The Partier
Stay away from him. Although he may seem as a fun and outgoing, I guarantee you will be better off with someone who stays away from gatherings full of bad mistakes and regretful decisions. The lifestyle of a partier never fits well with the maturity needed in marriage.

7. The Fake
He’s the guy who claims to be one thing, but in person never steps up to the plate. Not only is this unfair to your relationship, but you need to understand this isn’t going to stop anytime soon. Look for a man who is who he claims to be. Fakes can only pretend for so long.

8. The Hypocrite
He goes back and forth between his beliefs, standards, and regulations of life. Most of the time this man will change things to better suit his personal life. Don’t expect yourself to have a thriving relationship with someone who is constantly hypocritical in their words and actions.

9. The Flirt
This man loves to flirtatiously chat with strangers, waiters, and even your friends. The man you should seek is one who flirts with you and only you, no matter the circumstance. That last thing you want is to be married to someone who will deliberately flirt with people in front or you, let alone behind your back.

10. The Jerk
Simple. Don’t marry a jerk. You deserve more than that this guy can offer you. Look for someone who is kind, generous, selfless, and chivalrous. That last thing you want is to be embarrassed about bringing your man in public, all due to his attitude. Not to mention, verbal abuse is a widely spread problem that I don’t believe any woman should have to encounter.

-Jarrid Wilson

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23 Qualities Of A Guy Worth Dating

Searching for “the one” can be a daunting task. And while there may be hundreds of qualities to look for in a man, I’ve come up with 23 that I believe every woman should seek after. Don’t tread lightly when it comes to the idea of a relationship. You can be as picky as you want, and I discourage you from ever just settling. I hope these 23 qualities will help you on your journey, keep you from dating the wrong people, and encourage you to not ever sell yourself short. God didn’t create you to settle. 

 

1. He loves God.
2. He is driven.
3. He is goal oriented.
4. He is chivalrous.
5. He is supportive.
6. He is honest.
7. He respects his parents.
8. He respects your/his purity.
9. He shows patience.
10. He puts God first.
11. He is reliable.
12. He is trustworthy.
13. He is someone you are attracted to.
14. He is always willing to help those in need.
15. He will pray for you.
16. He manages his finances well.
17. He has a good reputation.
18. He is willing to work hard to provide.
19. He doesn’t make hasty decisions.
20. He doesn’t have a foul mouth.
21. He has good manners.
22. He is willing to protect you.
23. He is always thinking on the bright side.

taken from: http://jarridwilson.com/23-qualities-of-a-guy-worth-dating/

4 Signs She’s Worth Marrying

1. She Shares Your Values  - I cannot express how critical this is. A bride must share your value system on the points that matter – spirituality, children, sex, family, and even divorce. If she’s not on board with your core, you might want to get back in the market for someone who is.
2. She Respects You - Men have an innate desire to be honored and respected. This is not about submission, rather admiration, adoration, and encouragement. If you find a woman who has a head of respect (She thinks honorably about you), a heart of respect (She desires to follow you) a mouth of respect (she speaks highly of you), and hands of respect (out of love, she helps you) then you my friend, have a keeper.
3. She Supports You - A woman worth marrying is an incredible helper. Not out of gender role but out of love. She desires to serve, assist, and support you through the obstacles you meet. It’s not about laundry. It’s not about dishes. It’s about a heart that pours out a nurturing love of companionship. Like the saying goes, “behind every good man, is a great woman.”
4. She Captivates You - Let’s throw culture’s definition of beauty to the wayside for a moment. Men are predominantly physical, visual beings. Science, scripture, history, studies, they all back this truth.  Luckily, a man’s desires come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and smells. It comes in noses, feet, butts, necks, hands, eyes, and everywhere else imaginable But the key is captivation. Not lust. Can you look at this woman outside of time (because she will change), and say to yourself, “I can wake up every day of my life and believe she’s beautiful.”

resource: http://dalepartridge.com/4-signs-shes-worth-marrying/

23 Qualities Of A Woman Worth Dating

Searching for “the one” can be a daunting task. And while there may be hundreds of qualities to look for in a woman, my wife and I have come up with 23 that I believe every man should seek after. This post is quite similar to the previous one, but don’t let that keep you from digesting its truth. Don’t tread lightly when it comes to the idea of a relationship. You can be as picky as you want, and I discourage you from ever just settling. Everyone is looking for something different, but I hope these 23 qualities will help you on your journey, keep you from dating the wrong people, and encourage you to not ever sell yourself short. God didn’t create you to settle.

1. She loves God.
2. She is supportive.
3. She is goal oriented.
4. She is kind.
5. She encourages you. 6. She is honest.
7. She respects her parents.
8. She respects her/your purity.
9. She is modest.
10. She puts God first.
11. She is friendly.
12. She laughs at your jokes.
13. She is someone you are attracted to.
14. She is always willing to lend a helping hand.
15. She will pray for you.
16. She is a hard worker.
17. She is responsible.
18. She doesn’t gossip.
19. She doesn’t make hasty decisions.
20. She doesn’t have a foul mouth.
21. She has good manners.
22. She is appreciative of the things you do for her.
23. She is always thinking on the bright side.

There is a high chance you will not be able to find a woman who reaches each of these qualities perfectly, but I’m sure you get the point I am trying to make. There is a perfect woman out there for you, so I pray you take the time needed before moving into any type of relationship. Dont’ settle. I’m not a relationship expert, but I’d like to think these qualities are pretty informative for anyone looking to have one that lasts.

-Jarrid Wilson

resource : http://jarridwilson.com/23-qualities-woman-worth-dating/