It is happier to give than receive

On the way i drove home i see this old lady in the cempaka putih traffic light want to knocking on my door wishing some coins from this young driver. Yes she's a beggar. As he came closer,I just raise my hand to sign her that I'm not intrested to give her anything. She stand back, the traffic light went green, i drove.

Suddenly, i felt something in my heart and a question fly on my mind :"what the hell is an old lady doing at this hour? Why she begging some quarter at this moment? Nobody wants to do what she did... neither does she... If she do not need the money that urgent, she will not do what she did" and those kind of questions rushing on my mind and made my heart getting more uncomfortable. So i decide to get back to where she was and give her a fifty thousand rupiah from my pocket. Not a small amount, but i feel comfortable while i considering how much i will give her. And, yes, she's very happy. And i feel i'm doin' the right thing. Its true, it is happier to give than receive, like Jesus said.


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Procrastination

Gosh, accidentally i closed what I write about procrastination this afternoon without saving. Stupid me...

So, lets start over.

I read about the word procrastination about 2 weeks ago on kaskus. And that word exactly 100% describe me. Ok, first, here's the link to kaskus hot thread about procrastination: http://www.kaskus.us/showthread.php?t=9219213

The time I read about this procrastination,i decide to write it on this blog, but the fact, i did it today,2 weeks later.

Here's the definition according to wikipedia:

In psychology, procrastination refers to the act of replacing high-priority actions with tasks of low-priority, and thus putting off important tasks to a later time. Some psychologists cite such behavior as a mechanism for coping with the anxiety associated with starting or completing any task or decision.[1] Other psychologists indicate that anxiety is just as likely to get people to start working early as late and the focus should be impulsiveness. That is, anxiety will cause people to delay only if they are impulsive.[2]

Schraw, Wadkins, and Olafson have proposed three criteria for a behavior to be classified as procrastination: it must be counterproductive, needless, and delaying.[3] Similarly, Steel (2007) reviews all previous attempts to define procrastination, indicating it is "to voluntarily delay an intended course of action despite expecting to be worse off for the delay."[4]

Procrastination may result in stress, a sense of guilt and crisis, severe loss of personal productivity, as well as social disapproval for not meeting responsibilities or commitments. These feelings combined may promote further procrastination. While it is regarded as normal for people to procrastinate to some degree, it becomes a problem when it impedes normal functioning. Chronic procrastination may be a sign of an underlying psychological disorder.

Now I get a little understanding why i did the same mistake over and over and live a mess life. Since nothing i can found about how to overcome the procrastination habbit in my life, at least I know the thing i have to overcome.

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